From Survival Mode to Self-Compassion: A New Way of Thinking

As a therapist, I often remind my clients: your brain is not broken — it’s just doing what it’s learned. Our minds are wired to protect us by focusing on threats, and over time, this can create deeply ingrained negative thought patterns.

If we’re not intentional, it’s easy to get caught in a downward spiral — a loop of self-criticism, fear, and hopelessness. And the more often we go there, the more automatic it becomes.

The good news? The brain can change.

Through consistent practice, we can retrain it.

Not by forcing fake positivity, but by creating new pathways — noticing what’s working, grounding in the present, and practicing self-compassion.

Positive thinking isn’t toxic; it’s empowering when it’s rooted in awareness. It’s not about denying pain — it’s about giving equal airtime to hope.

You’re not failing if your brain leans negative. You’re just ready for a new pattern. And that begins with one small, repeated choice at a time.

I can’t wait to journey with you,

Leilah Mirza